Changes

My DH passed on August 20th. He had cancer which was diagnosed  late July and it had spread to so many organs. He had been unwell for a long time and then there was nothing that could be done.

Sid said he was not afraid to die. He accepted his path. He said death was transfiguration. There was time for us to say goodbye and hug and hold hands and say how much we loved each other on every visit. There was time to know this was our goodbyes.

Each of his brothers and their wives and his sister came to to the coast to visit him while he was able to talk and they all were able to say their goodbyes, each on a different day as did my sister and her husband. 

Close friends were able to say goodbye or write or phoned and I told him who sent their love. I talked to other family to let them know.

So many words unsaid, so many plans did not happen. He was in hospice and was not in pain, was sedated and then was gone. The nurses were very kind. The doctor who phoned immediately after he died was kind. The funeral chapel was kind and had they provided lists written out clearly that needed to be followed.  Family and friends have been supportive.

I don't think we are ready for losing our beloved life partner and the changes and work that must be done after. 

I am fortunate that my son and his son, my dear grandson live with me and I have them for support as I support them. DGS started collage this week. DS will be starting a work at home job later this month. I am the executor for my DH and took care of the immediate necessary work before the end of August. There are many jobs I must do to complete the executor's duties. I have time to grieve and think and write down each task I must do.

I have found that the brain knows what I should be doing next but the emotions often do not cooperate. Tears turn into sobs and my chest heaves. I notice that I do this when I am alone and not when I am with the boys. Grateful for that.

A dear friend wrote a history of Sid's life history as a teacher and I will share it in another post.

Hugs my Friends.

Joy

Fresh Additions to my Booth

Some lovely well loved games were added to my booths on Sunday. 

Card game:

Front

1952/48 cards

Back

Vintage games:

CLUE

SORRY

SCRABBLE

and a train set by MARX in original box Kansas City Southern with 4 cars and an engine, transformer and tracks. Came out in 1932. Perfect condition.

I didn't take photos until they were in my booths. It has been some time since I posted. 

Dear Husband is very ill 

and been in and out of the hospital for 4 months.

Glad you visited today.

Joy

Grade 12 Grad Today

Special Day - Grade 12 Graduation for Grandson

Dad and Brody - pictures at home, grad was students only and was filmed for home TV live

Each grad was given a red rose to share with someone they love

On top of the grad presents not yet opened - the hat, the diploma and the white scarf

Our dear grad in the living room, sewing machine on the table and a blanket on the floor hiding the gifts.

Something to look back and remember.

Joy

Celebrating 2nd Vaccine !

Picked yesterday evening.

Today is my birthday.

I took stock over to my booths early this morning, did some tidying and was grateful that I could do that just before ....

getting my 2nd vaccine shot at noon today. That is a very good birthday present. It is 2 months earlier than originally expected and only 7 weeks after my first vaccine shot. 

Son brought my DGS to visit after school today - with a big bouquet of pink flowers. We sat and visited for two hours. Wonderful treat. They also brought milk shakes.

DGS texted Happy Birthday with Love too.

DH phoned from the hospital at 9 am to say I Love You. He discovered that his second vaccine can be given in the hospital so that was good news. 

Love Joy

Flower Power

Flowers that survive and bloom every year. Roses, Peonies, Poppies, Blue Bells. All pushing their colours from their tightly closed little buds. Garden time, starting with flowers.

Buds and flowers.

Friday morning I plant shopped at the Laity Farm which is about 5 minutes from my home. I added 4 geraniums, 3 larger sized Marigolds and 4 small Dahlia plants. I was looking for Zinnia starts but didn't find any.  Planted Friday evening.

I looked back to my posts for May 2020. 

I am somewhat amazed that I wrote about each week about what I did and how things were. 

It felt good to be outside and follow my flower dreams.

Happy Birthday Dear Sister.

Hugs and Keep Well.

Joy

Happy Birthday Husband

Another year and another birthday has arrived, 

Happy Birthday today DH with hugs.

Today was also a time for figuring out what a collection of vintage/antique treen were -  the cheese cutter was my favourite. It takes TWO to decide what pieces were and what time they may have been used.

Happy Birthday !

Joy